I hate it even more when people insist on it.
Don't get me wrong, I totally understand the reasoning, you've been living in 'sin' you have everything thing you need and you'd rather have some cash to pay off your wedding and help you out on your honeymoon...but really? that's not my problem. I'll be in the same situation when I marry (I hope we're more established anyway) but won't ever actually ASK for money.
However, if you don't ask for it and don't have a wedding registry and I can't think of what to buy, then I may very well give it to you. That's what SJ and I will be doing this weekend.
A few reasons:
- I've met the groom (and travelled with him before) but I have never met the bride. Other than the wedding invite I haven't a clue as to her tastes/needs/desires
- There was no wedding registry (which is fine by me)
- We're coming from Melbourne so lugging something could be a pain
- We can't afford to give too 'decent' a gift right now either, since we're paying for flights up for the weekend (and I'm not really visiting my family as half of them are overseas) I figure $100 is good enough.
- Also note, there was no poem inside saying they preferred it.
Regardless, as stated in the first line of this post though, I do hate giving money as a gift.
I wrote a post last September on giving my sisters $100 each for Christmas to spend on new clothes (since their styles are forever changing), folded as collared shirts and hung in a tiny wardrobe with paper clothes (see here), they enjoyed it so much one sister still hasn't unfolded the money.
Money origami is bit in the US (from what I've gathered) where a paper $1 note is easy to fold and makes a nicer tip to leave at a table. In Australia, with out plastic notes, things are a little more difficult. In making the shirts for my sisters, I performed each fold and stuck the note in a large book for a while. When they were finished, I left them in a book for a few days before I put them on their little hangers.
I didn't have the time or patience to do that for this wedding gift, so I cheated a little. Last night I turned two $50 notes into hearts (easy to google, but I used this site for the heart and previously the shirt) and stuck them on the front of a card.
With the words "Two Hearts"
Do you approve?